I’ve always loved the idea of a stylish man. GQ men and James Bond always come to mind for me. There’s something very attractive about a man that can dress well and as some might say, a “Je ne sais quois,” that makes a man irresistible. I pondered these questions for myself and wondered why I found certain qualities attractive.
My husband, K, did not have personal style in terms of clothes or possessions when I met him but he had a bit of swag and charisma. I wrote post on charisma not too long ago and it definitely helps you put your personal style to life but personal style is different. It’s how you present yourself to the world, what’s on the outside as opposed to what’s on the inside.
Like I mentioned, K really didn’t have much in terms of personal style. He always wore the same shirts until they got pilly fuzz on them and started to curl at the bottom from being over dried too many times. He also always wore the same shoes until they started to wear through and look retro. And honestly, he didn’t really have a good reason to look put together; we were in our late teens when we met and barely getting by as young adults. Nevertheless, he would come dressed to impress whenever we had to go out to dinner or an event to go to. In return, it made me want to dress up and look good for him because why should he be the only one that looks good? 💁🏽 Over time he has developed his own style that fits his personality but also says success and confidence.
Here are some tips to help you look as good on the outside as you do on the inside:
A Quality Timepiece
I always notice if a man is wearing a watch and if you’re close enough to him, you can see the actual brand he’s wearing. Surprise, surprise women will look at your watch, notice, and make inferences about it. I’m not saying you should get the most expensive watch possible, but picking a watch that says a statement about who you are and will add to your personal style.
The Timex Weekender Watch is a classic. It’s a nice casual timepiece you can wear when you’re out in a polo and shorts or more casual with t-shirts. Its good for outdoors and is easy to replace if lost or broken. Timex is the perfect brand if you want to stay under $50 for a watch. The Weekender Watch here is under $30.
I also recommend Guess watches if you want a flashier look for less. Most of Guess’s watches fall between $75-200. I find the Guess watches to be a more affordable option over the pricier brand Movado.
Just look at the two nearly identical options for gold toned watches. The Guess watch is $100 while the Movado option is $1000. There isn’t much of a difference and Guess watches are just as sophisticated as the higher end brands.
For a luxury brand, I would recommend Bulova, they are exceptionally good quality timepieces that are reasonably priced between $250-$600. I have one of their women’s watches and I get constant compliments on mine.
I really love the Marine Star collection, This stainless Steel Chronograph watch is perfect for every day use since its waterproof. I also love how the watch faces are on the larger side with plenty of chrome detail.
A Nice Haircut:
K has beautiful thick hair. He also hates going to the barber. I don’t understand whyyy?? I love when his hair is freshly cut. Two months later his hair still looks good in an unkempt rugged sort of way? The point of this segment is to say your hair can say a lot about you. It says a lot about your grooming habits, whether you put time into your appearance or if you just let your mom cut your hair every 3 months. Hair is the first thing people are going to notice about you so finding the right cut is important.
I’m not going to post any pictures of what I think good looking hair looks like, but to be honest, there are many different hair styles, cuts, and textures that are attractive. Sexy beards are a thing too and some men have impressive beards that women turn their heads over. So having a well maintained beard is also something to think about. K, doesn’t really grow a great beard, though he tries. His barber helps him maintain a nice goatee. So talk to your barber, they know hair!
I think every man needs at least one nice suit. One that he can wear at a funeral, wedding or for a job interview. You always want to have one handy for an unexpected event, especially for an interview. Because you never know when you’ll have a great opportunity that requires you to dress your best. And between getting a fresh haircut and preparing for the opportunity, the last thing you want to spend your time on is a new suit with the right fitting. I love tailored slim fit suits. Dark blue is my favorite color, black tends to be too somber. The nice thing is suits can come in many different colors, textures and materials; so with plenty of options you can find one that fits and looks right for you. Suits tend to be expensive so you’ll probably need to start with just one and just maintain it with dry cleaning after every 2-3 wears depending on how soiled you feel like it gets. You don’t want to over wash or clean the fabric, because even with dry cleaning it can cause damage. In most department stores, you can get a good quality suit for $200-$300, especially during sales.
Surprisingly Amazon has a new program for clothes called PRIME WARDROBE, I’m not really one for in person shopping and neither is my husband. We usually just buy online and return by mail if we don’t like the fit. It’s pretty easy.
Anyway, K had bought this Blue Tommy Hilfiger suit and look amazing in it for a wedding shower brunch we went to. One of our friends had commented that he was always dressed so sharp for events. Sometimes I feel like he goes over the top, even for simple or small outings. But as he would put it, “You can be underdressed, but you can never be overdressed.”
Getting Higher Quality Clothes:
I’m going to start this segment with a caveat, having expensive clothes will not help in making a man more attractive when he is out of shape or unkempt. I would say good grooming and good health are first attractors for women and for people in general. As for clothes, I’m not talking about brands and trends and all that. I’m talking about getting good quality timeless pieces that you can mix and match with other parts of your wardrobe to create a polished look. K used to shop at Express and Zumies and although their clothes were really trendy; they always felt out of style within a year. Getting good quality shoes, jeans, dress pants, dress shirts and jackets can really add to your style. I’m not saying to buy everything overnight but start with one piece then add another piece, then another as you’re able to afford it. As you buy more pieces, you can filter the lesser quality clothes out or just have a greater variety to wear. My husband has recently gotten into Robert Graham dress shirts and Lucky Brand Jeans. These pieces are a bit pricey ($150-$200 a piece) so we get them here and there, especially if we see any sales at the mall.
Tips for Maintaining Clothes
1. High Quality Jeans: Jeans overall don’t need to be washed a lot. Actually they should be washed on a need to basis in order to avoid fading and shrinkage. You can hand wash them in cold water and detergent for darks. Don’t wring them out to dry but rather ROLL as much water out of them. Hang them up to dry or tumble dry them with cold air.
2. Shoes: wearing the same shoes every day wears them much faster. You need to let them breath and to keep quality shoes for longer, so you’ll also need to expand your collection from one to at least 3-4 pairs of shoes for daily wear that you can rotate. You’ll also need one pair of dress shoes and a pair of seasonal shoes like sandals or boots. And this is to start, eventually you’ll expand further depending on your preferences.
3. Jackets and suits: require dry cleaning. You can spot wash areas heavily soiled areas like underarms and neck collars by soaking with water and a light detergent and scrubbing with a toothbrush, but anything other than that I wouldn’t recommend.
You don’t need to have the best wardrobe to get attention or get the best job, but your overall style will say so much about you! They say first impressions are made within 30 seconds. It’s important your style choices match who you are and what you’re trying to portray. Most of all, personal style is a reflection of you. It doesn’t come overnight but you want it to match the best version of you possible 🙂
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