I like to consider positivity one of those things you just exude. We all know that person who caries a cloud over their head, raining on everything and everyone around them and then there’s that person who brings light into every room they enter. They greet everyone, laugh, remember your name and generally just have a good disposition. When talking about the future or their current state, it’s all good! And it’s not an act, these are people who generally believe it.
There was this girl from law school that I knew. She was very well liked, smart and…positive! I never remember her complaining about the workload, the classes or really anything in general. She worked hard, studied, networked through extracurricular activities. She had that confidence and believed in her work and her reason for being there. That girl ended up winning. She graduated among the top of her class and ended up in a great associates position at a major law firm. I on the other hand was very negative at the time and ended up dropping out later that year. (More on that in another post)
I really didn’t learn the power of positivity until later in life. And it honestly makes a difference! It changes your life! And best of all it makes you happy!
- Gratitude: At any given time we all have problems in our life. A flat tire, a bad hair day, a lost loved one, a hard day at work. And it’s so easy to focus on these issues but what about the good things in your life? What about your family or great partner? What about the fact that you’ve made it to X years in your life? You’re still here enjoying what it means to be human! What about the food on the table, your job, the clothes on your back the God-given gifts life has presented you? Now imagine you spent as much time feeling this positive about what you have in life vs what’s wrong.
- Affirmation: Even if it’s not true say it and make it true. Last night I was working out with my Husband, he was helping me out with weight training. He likes to push me. Meanwhile, I haven’t done a single push up in, like, 8 years. The phrases I said were, “I can’t,” “it’s too much,” “you’ve lifted more weight than me.” He kept pushing himself, “come on!” “Let’s go!” After he was done with his set, he’d push himself further, “two more!” Again and again. My point is, believe in the goal and the goal will come. Reality starts with thought, positive or negative, and that is what the outcome will be. My husband really believed he could lift the weight, and even when he was tired and pushing himself, he could. Write down your goals. Say them aloud every day, affirm them. You’ll be surprised at how easily the ideas come to you, as well as the willpower to make them happen .
- Action: Because positivity is nothing but hope without action. You can keep saying your mantras, keep having positive thoughts but if you’re not willing to put in the work to make it happen…then I’m sorry to have to be the one to break it to you, it ain’t falling out of the sky and happening for you. You need to ask yourself the hard questions. What are you willing to do to make this happen? What are you willing to sacrifice. Because all gains in life start with sacrifice and work.
What I’m really saying is that changing your attitude and your perception coupled with action can bring blessings and “luck” into your life. Give it a try, seriously. Maybe positively can’t change all the problems in the world, but it will definitely change how you feel about them. 🙂