We live in a society that’s all about reward and recognition. We want to be the best, the smartest, the prettiest, the coolest. It’s a huge pressure we carry around, and we don’t even realize it.
When I was 21 I would cry in my bed just thinking about how everyone was having so much fun without me. Facebook was not nearly as political back then and it was all about getting likes and being in other people’s pictures. I wanted to be the prettiest and most liked and I would agonize over not being invited to stuff and, essentially, the center of attention.
But at 29, I can honestly say that those days I spent crying over problems I created were a waste. Days that I spent comparing myself to others were also wasteful. Not being happy with myself was so obvious, I’m sure I would made more friends if I was more positive and open.
I’m going on a tangent but I was good enough but unhappy about being “mediocre.” Mediocre is such a harsh word and I don’t think it should be applied to people. Now I’m finally at a place where I can say “Yes, I’m doing okay and that’s good enough.” I think it has a lot to do with gratitude and being grateful. I touched on gratitude in my last post.
Examples of Good Enough
1. Putting food and shelter over your head for the entirety of your adult life. (You get an A+ for doing this for multiple people)
2. Getting a passing grade in Algebra when you’ve always struggled to learn math.
3. Working 40 years in the same position but being able to retired with a comfortable nest egg.
4. Going to any college and finishing.
5. Not going to college and completing technical school.
6. Being married for 30 years and raising a family.
7. Being healthy and going to the doctor for regular checkups.
8. Creating a workout and meal plan, not always sticking to it but trying anyway.
9. Not having a large savings yet but being debt free.
10. Being of average appearance but keeping clean and well groomed.
I’m not saying we should abandon our aspirations and dreams. Being content with how things are today are the foundation blocks of growing and building as a person. When I started in my industry, I sucked. But that was good enough until I finally got better. I kept working on it and I’ll keep working on it. I didn’t let fear of failure or not being the best hold me back from what I intended to do with my life.
So I would say, it’s okay to be good enough today and it will be fine to be good enough tomorrow. Focus on what values you want to carry in your life. Being good enough in areas that you don’t value won’t matter in the long run.